I almost never re-post from another blog, but this is beautiful! This partner lived the Starbucks mission statement and demonstrates how Starbucks is in the “People business serving coffee.” What partners do when they put on the green apron is just as much about the human connection as it is a delicious beverage.
You’ll find the original blog post on a website called Blue Table Musings. (Written by Jenn Nahrstadt on January 26, 2016).
My dear Starbucks regulars:
I’ve been thinking about you for days, knowing that my last day is fast approaching. I’ve allowed myself a trip down memory lane, listing how many of you and your drinks I could remember from the eight and a half years I’ve been asking, “What can I get started for you?”
There are over 150 of you. Oh my, how I have been blessed.
How can I put into words what I have learned from you and come to treasure about you? How can I help you understand how you’ve, literally, changed my life? Give me a few minutes to try to explain.
Jeff, it all began with you. That early summer morning when I asked how you were and you answered, “Fine.” But then I turned around and you decided to trust me with the new and terrible news you’d only learned the night before of Julie’s breast cancer. How honored I was–and equally shocked, honestly–that you would share your burden with me, the person who made your coffee each day. I’ll never know why you did that, but I’m forever different because of that exchange.
What happened inside of me that day? I understood that what we did each day–my asking, “How are you doing?” and “What can I get started for you?” and “What’s your name?”–was something that had the power to transform a transaction into an interaction. A connection became a conversation, and each time we shared a little bit more. The words empowered me to see you and be seen by you, to know you and be known by you. The difference it made when I remembered your name, your drink, that comment you made the last time you were in motivated me to make sure I was a good steward of the glimpses into your lives that you were giving me.
I never treated another transaction the same again, whether I was behind the line or the customer myself. You changed me for the better. Thank you so much.
So many of you saw me, called me by name, and made small talk each day. Over time, we became acquainted, and I came to care about you, more than I expected to. Joe, you always had a joke for me. Rod and Dan, you tipped for your plain old cups of coffee every.single.day and apologized when you didn’t have cash on you to put in the tip jar. It wasn’t the tipping that was important. It was just one way you acknowledged thankfulness for a service you valued. It was so appreciated.
For some of you, it was all you could do to place your order and give me your name. Every day you honored me by making eye contact. Thank you, Werner and Wolfgang and Prem, and many others like them. You helped me understand better how to create a safe space for you to be who you are. I hope you felt accepted and not accosted by this overly extroverted, naturally caffeinated barista!
Please understand this: you’re not just names and drinks to me. You’re the people I’ve looked forward to seeing every shift and wondered where you went when you didn’t walk through that door. For those who left thinking that no one would miss you when you slipped away, know that I did, and I hope you’re well.
Thank you for introducing me to your kids–Lacey, Leah, Hannah and Ben, Sierra, Mason and Lexi, Tate–and your wives, for telling me about your vacation plans and upcoming special occasions. I loved every little thing you told me about yourselves–how you tried out for the Cumming Playhouse musical, Joe, and how you were producing a play downtown, Mary, and how you were thinking about asking someone out, Taylor, and how you were caring for your ailing parents, Jane, Gordon and Kathy, and David and Snoanne. I loved hearing about your experiences, large and small, special and ordinary.
You may find this hard to believe, but I carried many of your stories home with me. The things you said stayed with me, and I prayed for you, Jeff, to get a new job; for you, Shelly, to find comfort after your dad died; and for you, Chris, to find relief from your insomnia.
Thank you for allowing me to shoulder your concerns. Carolyn, you were the second person after Jeff to offer me a glimpse into your pain. Little did I know that my usual, “How are you doing today?” would make you feel safe to share about that first dose of morphine you’d given your mother minutes before you walked through the cafe doors. You taught me that you never know what someone else is going through, so I need to be kind. Thank you, Lisa, for trusting me with your fear about a scan that turned out to be nothing. Thank you, Katelyn, for letting me hug you after I saw your unshed tears and you told me your best friend had died. I’m glad you knew on some level that you would find caring people when you came in for your drink. Thank you, Dr. Larry, for coming by for a bolstering cup of dark coffee before you headed down to the VA for your appointments. Thank you, Cheryl and Carolyn and Arjun and Angelo, for embracing this Third Place as somewhere to be known and becoming a community of friends who watch out for each other.
All this? This is why Starbucks has been so much more than coffee for me.
Thank you to my first manager, Clay Bartley, for taking a chance on someone who asked if she had to like coffee in order to work there. Thank you, Kimmy Yee Poisson, for taking your job so seriously, for doing it so well, and for caring so genuinely, so deeply about your people. I’m thankful to have been one of them. Thank you, Michelle, for understanding me. Thank you, Zoe, for doing what you were good at and not pretending to be someone you weren’t. Finally, thank you, Lawson, for not letting me quit when I wanted to.
To all the partners I’ve worked with at the Bethelview, Ronald Reagan, and Bethany Bend stores, thank you for giving your best, making it so much fun, and helping me not take myself so seriously. We’re in the people business selling coffee. Don’t ever forget. I’ve been the one left behind many times as you have moved on, and I’ve rejoiced with you as you’ve embarked on new adventures. I know you’re doing the same for me.
It really is time to go.
Here’s what’s next. Twenty-seven years ago, I earned a degree in communications and worked in my field. After dedicating myself to motherhood for almost 22 years, I’ve become an empty nester. I’ve decided to start writing again, beginning with this blog that I launched last September. (Feel free to read the archives!)
I’ve embraced that I am a writer. I’ll be working as a freelance writer and editor, and collaborating in the wee hours with a dear friend on a project that may become a book or an app. Whenever you’re curious about what’s happening with me, know that you can come here to read about it. I’d love to know what’s going on with you too, so please leave comments! Maybe we could meet for coffee–seriously!
It has been my genuine joy to help you start your day with a smile and some caffeine. Thank you for making it so much more than a job.
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Absolutely beautiful article, and beautiful expression of what the majority of partners feel/experience every day and every shift!
Wow, that realty touches my heart.
I will pay much more attention when I say “How are you?”.
So beautiful.
That was beautiful. It reminds me of why I love being a partner.
Very well written. It amazes me how all of these partners can remember names and drinks of so many people!
I cried and had to take a minute before finishing. This is so much like my experience as a partner. I do my best to be genuine and oh boy, the things I’ve been told! I’ve seen adoptions happen in my lobby, breakups and proposals. I’ve been the trusted ear so many times and I have felt privileged to be the one to keep their trust and secret. It blows my mind every day how I can bless someone with a cup of coffee and and smile. Definitely my favorite part of my job 🙂
Wow. Honestly, as a customer, I have sometimes felt as nothing more than just an order to be fulfilled. How beautiful to glimpse the other side of the counter. How sweet to know that this is more than just serving a cup of coffee. As an extreme introvert I am challenged by this post to do my part in turning “a transaction into an interaction” Thank you Jenn and Melody for sharing and re-posting.
As one of the people Jenn mentions in this post, I have to say that many of the customers that come into a Starbucks often don’t come in for the expensive coffee. (Okay, truth be told, during Pumpkin Spice season, we might!) Most of the time, we come in for the experience. We come in for the people, for the feeling…it’s like that TV show, Cheers. We come in because we feel welcomed, because someone knows our name, because someone knows us, because someone appreciates us and because we are accepted. Jenn gave so many people that feeling and I am sure there are many, many other Starbucks Baristas that offer that same feeling for so many other customers. When my mother was dying, and after her death and then eleven months later when my father died, Starbucks was the one place I could go where I didn’t have to meet the expectations of anyone. I could simply be me and whatever I felt at that moment and I so needed that feeling of acceptance, that feeling of being welcomed. So thank you to all of those special Baristas out there in Starbucks land who offer that special “how are you today?” and truly mean it. Because one day someone like me will give you an honest answer and tell you about that first dose of morphine she had to give her dying mother. And who knows, you might just end up making a new friend.
Very moving article. Thanks for re-posting here Melody. My own Starbucks on the Oregon Coast is my retreat, break in-between errands, medical appts., meeting a friend in need or visa versa.
However, most of all about this store, over the 9 years I’ve frequented here throughout each week, I appreciate the partners I’ve met and some, come to know. A course, some are in-between school and moving on; only there for a short time. Others for much longer. Most all have been wonderful and they are like family to me. Bring a smile to my face, and a short conversation and always a listening ear to the various things going on in my life. A course this doesn’t take them from their job, but it flows right in with their job. This is what is so wonderful about ones “regular” Starbucks. However, having traveling to other states, cities and even countries, all Starbucks have the same “flavor” of personality if you will.
The kindness I experience at Starbucks means a lot esp. when going through a difficult time and such. A course I love the various coffee concoctions they have. Well, that’s about it.
Cutos to my Starbucks, store #8842- my home store and all the others who have partners that have repped SB so well!
Beautiful. This is how I thought of my job every day I was a barista at Starbucks many years ago. I wanted to make connections with people and make them coffee! I SO wish the partners at my local store had just a tenth of this person’s heart for their job. I’ve been going to that store several times a week, sometimes daily, for over 8 years since its been open. The longest-time baristas I see almost every time I go barely acknowledge my existence and still don’t know my name. I always go out of my way to ask how they are and smile as they barely make eye contact, but nothing changes with them. They are who they are and obviously are just there to do a chore. So sad. Luckily, there are a couple of new baristas who seem to have a lovely attitude and already recognize me when I go in. They are sorely needed there, because the ONLY reason I continue to go to that store is because it’s closest to my home. These days it seems they are just trying to get you out of the line as quick as possible. Guess it goes along with texting as a form of communication—short, quick, get it over with. Such a shame. I wish Sbx would strive to emphasize hiring more folks with this person’s attitudes. It would go far to improve their current customer service. It seems gems like these are rare at the Sbx locations I go to in the burbs.
Deb, i’m sorry this has been your experience. i can imagine how hard that is, given your aspirations while you were a partner. the only thing i can share from my experience is that sometimes it just takes time. i know you’ve given it quite a long time. i have had to accept that there were some customers who didn’t want what i had to offer. the same can be said of baristas. we never really know what’s going on in someone’s life.
continue to be consistent and you’ll connect. perhaps the new partners will help the others lift their heads and see the possibilities.
This is absolutely beautiful. Thank you so much for choosing to post this… <3